Thursday, September 25, 2008

Parent's expectation

Problem 1...
Dear School Psychological Issues...
I am an 11 years old girl studying in Delhi. I have got everything one can desire but my parents have lot of expectations from me.They want me come first in studies, music, sports and everything. They keep forcing me to do things which I don't feel like doing. Sometimes I feel like leaving my house and stay somewhere else. I know that this is not a solution. Please tell me how I make my parents understand my feelings. Please help me.
- Emotional trouble

5 comments:

Unknown said...

WHAT I FEEL...
you are 11 yrs old. you must talk to your parents about this. they would definately understand this.
you must always try the best and leave the rest on god. this is what i think. let the psychologist give his/her opinion.

TanyaS said...

i agree with what neha says. but lets wait for the psychologist to write in.

Anonymous said...

listen u always say what u wanna do do but now listen talking to your parents will be the best to solve this problem

kalpana said...

dear friend we are living in a society which has expectations this is naturally transfered on to your parents and you since we all form a part of the society.opening a gud communication with your parents as to the stress you face and how it is affecting you mentally and emotionally would help. choose to talk to them in an environment which is pleasant ,happy and has the air of warmth. before approaching them write down what you want to communicate to them.how u want to communicate.be assertive not agressive and above all be assured that parents are our best well wishers and they will do nothing to harm us so build that trust within you and nevr think of running away from a problem. face it ,explore solutions always bcoz worst of anything is an argument nothing more,as growing child u need to understand also that there is conflict within yourself from a yes master ,one who listens to all that your parents have asked of you ,there is a change in you ,your mind has started analysing if what they are asking is right or wrong,gud or bad,so this is also bringing about a frustration in you tackle that by knowing what is best for u. hope all this will help.and you are bubbling back with energy and zest

helper said...

from your letter i see that you are quite clear about the situation. i would like to appreciate the fact that you are aware of what you have been blessed with. however, in the competitive world of today, it is quite common for parents to expect the best for their children. however, you can let them know how you feel about the situation.

tell them in a calm and open manner so that they will understand how you feel. make it clear to them what you like and what you dread. let them know how much better you will feel if you could choose not to do certain things. but remember to thank them for trying to give the best for you.

if you are not confident enough to talk to your parents, consult your teacher and talk to her about this.